Tools for Men’s Mental & Emotional Strength

Here at The Nerdy Dermy, we support a healthy body AND a healthy mind. Men often don’t know where to start, so Vanessa created this resource hub to guide you back to yourself.

The Grounded Man

The Grounded Man is for the boys who’ve eaten trauma, buried it, masked it, and kept it moving because that’s all we were taught.


I get it — I lived it. Pain, chaos, devastation… you name it.


I know what it’s like to be the tough one, the one who never cracks and the one who explodes because no one taught me how to regulate.  They just told us to shut up and deal with it.


But I also know the healed version of me.
Still solid. Still gangster. Still capable of popping off,  but with purpose now, not because I’m a grenade waiting to go off.


I learned the hard way I put in years of work, trial, error and healing.


I want you to have the same peace.



This book is the shortcut: how I fixed my nervous system, my reactions, my mindset, and my life.


You've got nothing to lose except a bad attitude